a ridiculous female who doesn't like me not liking religion, apparently

I am amused and a little angry right now, because someone reported my facebook statuses to my school. They said it was religious intolerance or some other ridiculous thing.

Look, if you have a problem with me, then tell me. What do you think my school's going to do? What CAN my school do? Ask me to delete my account? In which case I'll just make a new one, thank you very much. If you're too pathetic and weak to tell me what you think, then whatever. You have an issue with ME, tell ME about it, not my school. I think that's kind of elementary.

And the anonymity isn't working very well. I've kept both my school name and real name off my facebook - I've never even explicitly stated which country I'm in, so this means that the person was someone who knows me personally, not only as an online persona. Oops! What a narrow list of people.

And here's more details: those two statuses were posted on my account, NOT to a page, NOT to someone else's wall, NOT to a group. If that doesn't scream "personal opinion", then you have more issues than I thought you did. I did NOT mention anyone's name, I did NOT mention any religion, and I did NOT mention a race. That's as vague as anyone can get while remaining coherent.

I don't understand how a vague status about religion and religious people can offend you to such an extent that you feel the need to email my school. In case you didn't know, this is called the internet, and there are worse things than female teenage atheists who think religion is more than very ridiculous. Or was that the swearing? Were vulgarities a little too harsh for your sensitive eyes? Get off the internet! Get a filter!

I don't understand what you're trying to achieve by emailing the school, but I'm afraid that your entire point has been diluted to nothing by passing through a third party. This issue is between YOU and ME, in no way does it involve my school. Get that into your brain, please. You are a ridiculously touchy woman/girl, and this issue is nothing more than an annoying inconvenience.

It DID make me laugh for quite some time, so thanks for that, anyway.

I have no idea how anyone thought that complaining to my school would be a viable solution - hint: it is not. Maybe reporting me to facebook, or messaging me, or something like that, but emailing the school? Oh my, hardcore. Did you think I would be suspended or something for having opinions? Oh I'm sorry, maybe next time when I say that I don't like warm drink. Maybe then you can report me for intolerance of temperature, I don't know.

Full explanation of statuses, because I do not regret posting them, do not regret having those opinions, and I do not regret anything about them, basically, because regret is against my principles of life - regret is a horrible, wimpy, pointless emotion. Also this is why I'm pissed at that female - and not apologetic about offending her. Life offends everyone, my dear.

"I don't know how to tolerate religion, I just get passive-aggressive."

Let me make a little longer: I dislike religion. A lot. I never fail to be irritated by it. The presence of religion makes me angry. (Why it makes me angry, though, would require a post about three times as long as this one to explain.)

Here's the definition of "intolerant": unable or unwilling to endure... unwilling to grant equal right of expression... unwilling to grant/share rights.

Here's the definition of "tolerate": to endure or resist the action of (as a drug or food) without serious side effects or discomfort... to allow to be or to be done without prohibition, hindrance, or contradiction... to put up with.

Now, in case I'm misunderstood (which I fear I already have been), "I don't know how to tolerate religion" means "I don't know how to endure religion", or "I can't put up with religion". Not "I don't know how to grant equal right of expression to religion", or "I don't know how to allow religion to be/to be done without prohibition..." etc.

Simply put: I am irritated by religion. Very much so.

EVERYONE IS ENTITLED TO THAT.

I'm sorry for the capslock, but it was necessary. Being irritated by something does not warrant a complaint to the school. And neither does being passive-aggressive about it. That's petty. It's not like I'm saying "I hate religion and I will kill all religious people", because that is WRONG. and I do NOT feel that way. Religion is what makes people say "rape is a gift from god". And don't start arguing about how that's not the religion YOU believe in - that IS a religion, the end.

"You know what's fucked up? The fact that some people need god to be good. Bullshit."

Either the person who reported me was offended by f- and b-, or she's one of those who need god in order to be good. Because there is nothing else to be offended by in this post. I still stand by this, by the way: it's plain ridiculous to claim that morality comes with theism of the Christian variety.

It's quite simple: if you treat a starving man to a meal, then you're obviously being good and kind and you have MORALS.

And who does things like that? Christians. Atheists. Buddhists. In other words, humans in general. And just like that, poof! Your "god-given morality" argument is only so much minuscule dust in the wind.

Everyone has the right to cuss. Everyone has the right to pick holes in horrible arguments. Reporting me for this is petty. Also ridiculous. Very much so.

About cussing online, and school: my school understands that it is ridiculous to expect that all teenagers remain virtuous and speak only in polite terms. Also, in this day and age, cussing has ceased to be taboo, and is now only one of the numerous ways to emphasise your point quickly and rudely - not that it's what my school told me.

Either way - I don't swear in front of teachers. Not once. Ever. I'm serious. I only swear in order to express my extreme exasperation and annoyance, when it would take ten paragraphs to convey the same emotion otherwise.

Do you ever hear anyone say "That's crazy! Not only does that violate every single rule of courtesy, but it also proves that he is a human being who is absurdly unaware of the rules of conduct and is incapable of self-preservation and a complete douchebag with no self-respect! I am amazed at his stupidity and I feel surprisingly angry!"?

No, they say "That's crazy! He's fucked up."

long overdue AFA2012 post

Okay so I went to AFA2012 with Tamara (@i_nom_allday) and Mike (@yatogamikun) (mike is an arse and changes her username like all the time) only on the second day, because my mother had some surgery and basically couldn't get out of bed. Not to sound like an asshole, but I'm pretty sure she could have managed without me for one day.

Anyway, we spent most of the time at the main stage, squished right behind the barrier separating us from the judges, and waited for Kaname - mostly. We schemed and schemed and ran in about forty minutes ahead of schedule just to be at the front. Danny Choo was fun, though, so we didn't waste the forty minutes.

Here's a picture of a sexy Allen. 

It's important to note that most people - about 99% - utterly fail while cosplaying Allen Walker (D. Gray-Man), presumably because Allen is just too fucking hot. Thus this cosplayer deserves worship.

Here's a picture of the sexy Tamara, which I took while waiting for Kaname.

He was late for an entire hour. During that time, we worked out that half an hour is fashionably late, and to be expected, but an entire hour means that someone somewhere has fucked something up.

Anyway, the regional Cosplay championships - stage lighting, bad photos, nothing much anyway - and the judges. There was a sexy judge called Mikoto, from Taiwan, I think, who shocked everyone when she revealed that she, well, wasn't a she at all. Really sexy, except now I'm not sure how to refer to her. He? She? I'm just so confused. Okay I think he.

Just really sexy, okay. (League of Legend's Morgana, apparently.)

And then there's Kaname, who was high enough to do Gangnam Style with Danny Choo. Not only the horsey dance part, but also the wriggle-under-the-other's-legs part. Everyone squealed and started leaping up onto the barrier.

Sorry, only a few shitty photos here. But Kaname looks appropriately high.

Also here's Reika, who's also sexy as fuck. Also.

There isn't much else, so I'll just dump some pictures over here.

@hikari_taiyaki's umbrella - no idea who she was cosplaying, though. Must remember to ask her soon.

Whee moar spin

What Tamara wore on day one, when I wasn't there... sigh.

A wonderful... something?? Just wonderful. Also sexy.

 I presume it's some kind of fashion culture/subculture thing, which flew right over the head of yours truly, who sometimes cannot differentiate right and left.

moar

moar moar

Kaname, twitter, page, as Fushimi Saruhiko of K.

So... that's it, I guess. I'm done. Unlike my STGCC post, which somehow is unfinished...

pro-choice is bullshit? okay here's a post for you

*Angry post alert. Post will be reordered and made more coherent later.


I saw a picture on Facebook, and it went along the lines of "like this, save babies, abortion is wrong". You know what's wrong? That post.

First let's talk about not shoving stuff down others's throats. It was a post by a page called "teen swag" (side note: ha ha HA) and I presume that teen swag means something like cool clothes and cute couples and maybe skateboards. I don't know, I don't have swag.

But let's make it clear: most people who liked the page didn't sign up for pictures of fetuses and questions about morality. They signed up for some "swag" - cool things. I think. Work safe things. I'm thinking cute couples kissing and people wearing beanies and colourful chalked hair.

Here's to the page: why don't you get back to posting your swag. Atheist pages post atheist things, godly pages post things about god. Hat pages post about hats!! It's not that hard, you know. If I wanted some pictures of refrigerators I wouldn't go liking shoe pages. If you MUST post about abortion, then post it on your personal account.

Yeah. You know? That's called not being an asshole. If I like a page called "pretty hair", I sure as fuck didn't sign up for porn.

So, dear "teen swag" page, shut the fuck up and get back to posting swag, whatever that is.

So now I'll get around to talking about why pro-choice is called pro-CHOICE.

Simply put, pro-choice is giving people the freedom to CHOOSE. I'm going to give you a pear and an apple. That's pro-choice. If I hand you an apple and tell you that pears are against the law now, that's anti-choice.

Anti-choice, in the case of abortion, is often called "pro-life". Now I'm assuming that "pro-life" means "against abortion except in cases where the mother's life is threatened". That's good. That's called being moderate, and that makes sense.

So how did it become anti-choice? When you chose to enforce it on others. Keep in mind, that's YOUR view. If you accidentally get pregnant, then you'll have the baby, because your life isn't in danger, and you don't like abortions. That's your view, right?

YOUR view.

This starts being anti-choice when you start making others do that as well.

You don't understand? Let's look at it from another point of view.

I think that all accidental pregnancies should be terminated by abortion, as early as possible (I don't actually think that way, but for the sake of debate). That's fine, that's my view. If I accidentally get pregnant, I'm going to abort it. But it starts being stupid when I try to make it a law, doesn't it? You're pregnant? By accident? Here's an abortion to go.

You'd say I was taking away your freedom of choice.

THAT'S IT. THAT'S EXACTLY IT.

When pro-lifers choose to enforce their views by making it a LAW, they are taking away our freedom to choose. Want an abortion? NO.

That's ludicrous, that is. Hey, keep your baby if you want, but I'm not keeping mine. That's none of your business, so stop trying to make it yours.

Pro-choice: keep abortion legal, so that those who want it can get it.

That's it. There is no more. Nothing to deduce. Nothing's hidden. There are no nasty implications or whatever.

Pro-life: make abortion illegal, except when the mother's life is in danger.

That is NOT it. What nasty things are hidden behind this facade of "pro-life"? The fact that if you want an abortion, you can't get it, because their morals stand between you and your vagina.

Pro-choice: want an abortion? Okay, you go get one, but I'M not getting one because I don't believe in abortion.

Pro-life: want an abortion? No, you can't get one, because I don't believe in abortions.

It's that simple.

The part above was for moderates. Here's the reasoning for religious people, or people who think zygotes have souls, or for people ... I don't even know. Anyone who thinks abortion is murder, step right up. This part is for you.

You guys eat apples, right? Apples have seeds, right? An apple seed is to an apple tree what a fetus is to a person. A potential apple tree, a potential person. Both are ready to grow if you give it the chance.

Then agin, you don't campaign to "save apple seeds!", do you?

Souls? A fetus has a soul? Give me a rest! You can shut up about your "souls" bullshit until you hand me proof. And I mean scientific proof, validated by thorough research and experiments. Not the dubious kind of "I died and saw God" proof. That's called delusion, in case you didn't know, or perhaps some kind of scientific phenomena mistaken for god.

Also let me show this all to you in story form, which I heard is much easier for the human brain to digest than abstract things:

A woman gets pregnant by accident, because contraception works 99%, leaving 1% to chance. If she gives birth, she'll have a hard time taking care of the baby. Her life will be thoroughly disrupted. SHE DOES NOT WANT A BABY, DAMMIT. Too bad the doctors think abortion is immoral, oops! Too bad her country thinks abortion is ILLEGAL.

So now she has a baby that she never wanted.

(Side note: I'm getting a little angry here.)

And hey, for those who think no one should ever get an abortion, even in cases of rape, here's something for you: you want to be reminded of your rapist for the next forever? Because that's how long you'll have to deal with that baby!

Punishing the unborn baby for its fathers sins? Bullshit! That "baby" knows nothing right now. That baby has no idea it even exists - if you can euthanise a dog, you can abort a baby. That dog has years of bonds to sever! That baby has none.

The victim does NOT want to deal with this shit! The victim has been raped and now wants this the fuck over with. The victim does not want any bloody lingering trauma! Her body has been violated! She does not want to violate it any further! Shut up about not letting her get an abortion!

Oh, but then sometimes the baby is kept.

We're going back to the normal working woman, who wasn't raped:

Too bad for the baby! The baby gets an unwilling mom, or the baby gets sent off to an orphanage. Living costs are rising! This woman certainly canNOT afford to raise a bloody baby. She scrimps and saves and ends up absolutely miserable! The baby is ruining her life! For the first three years, AT LEAST, she's randomly woken up in the middle of the night, has to deal with baby barf, has to deal with a troublesome child 24/7, has to change nappies, has to feed a baby who sometimes wreck things for no reason.

If you're a pro-lifer who's never had to deal with a baby, shut up right now. Shut up. Your opinion is gone. You are not allowed to tell people keep their baby and then torture themselves. Anyone who's ever helped with a baby before knows this - sometimes you just want to shake the little devil until it shut up, dammit. I'm not even saying that you have to be a mom! Maybe an older sibling old enough to have to deal with the younger sibling! Maybe an uncle!

Maybe a woman who's gone through this two times doesn't want a third baby.

Guess what? Then she should be allowed to NOT have that third baby. She should be allowed to abort a baby that she KNOWS she can't take care off. You think the orphanages aren't crowded enough? You think we need more babies without parents to look out for them? (Don't get me started about not letting homosexuals adopt children!)

I've had enough of this shit!

Making abortion legal means that desperate women won't have to seek out quack doctors! It means having abortions in the relatively safe and controlled environment of a clinic! It means keeping your life in order.

It means that if YOU don't want an abortion, YOU don't have to. It means that if YOUR FRIEND wants an abortion, SHE CAN HAVE ONE.

Oh, but there are more issues to address! Why stop here? We also have women who say "fuck contraceptions" and then get pregnant!

I do admit that it's phenomenally stupid. What about STDs? Because the condom is a contraceptive. But forget STDs, if you don't use contraception, then it's just basically your own fault for getting pregnant! Because for the other "yay contraception" cases, it's only 1%, and some of that 1% just says "oops! But okay, baby. Yay!".

So if you don't use contraception, and you get pregnant, then it's stupid. But fear not! YOU CAN STILL GET THAT ABORTION. Stupid choices, yeah, but you're allowed that abortion! Nowhere does it say that people who make illogical choices can't get abortions.

Basically, choices! People would look down on you if you went for multiple abortions BECAUSE you're still not using contraception, but they HAVE NO GROUNDS to dismiss you. They have to get you an abortion. And that's not taking advantage of the law, by the way. If you want to talk about that, lawyers do that every day.

Actually, I think I'm done here, there's not much else to say.

(There IS a optimal abortion period, I think, so if you go past that you just have to keep the baby.)

(My philosophy has affected this post. I don't want to give birth, I'm going to adopt. Definitely. And I think more people should adopt. Because adoption > giving birth - and shut up about wanting "your own baby". What era is this?! - No nine-month torture, no pain, and you help a kid who doesn't have parents. That's pretty good, if you ask me.)

(Also I admit to finding the huge stomach thing offputting. It's something like, if I poke it, it might burst. It makes me uncomfortable.)

that's avoidance not passive-aggressiveness

A lot of things piss me off, but only a few things can ruin my day. Here's one: avoidance.

What do I mean?

Avoidance as in having an issue with something and then pretending that there's nothing. For example, being annoyed by a post, and then venting your frustration on another site. That's the kind I'm talking about.

Why is it annoying? Because it makes no sense. Granted, there are a lot of things that don't make any sense whatsoever, but this is one of the really pointless ones.

If you have something to say, say it. If you're pissed off by something, you don't necessarily have to say "fuck I'm pissed at you", but the least you can do is to let the other party know. The most pointless thing you can do is to keep it to yourself/post your frustration where the other party probably won't see it.

Why? Because nothing's going to be done. If you know the other party IRL, you're kind of obligated to keep friending/following that person, and you're also obligated not to offend him/her. God knows, no one likes strained relationships.

In this case, you either kept your irritation to yourself, or say it out. And you'd better not keep it to yourself and CONTINUE being angry, because that's like poking yourself with a needle. When I refrain from commenting on IRL friends's posts, I put it out of my mind. I'm not going to do anything about THAT, better not keep myself angry. See? Alternatively: I'm not going to do anything about THAT, and I'm going to continue being angry. ANGERRR!!

If it's not an IRL person, or if you're not bothered with petty social media courtesy, then unfriend/unfollow. It's not even that hard.

Bottom line: do something about it, or stop being irritated by it. By all means, continue being pointless and angry, but it ruins my day when I see this sort of stupidity. I mean, do they want to be irritated and angry all day or what? It's not even a nice feeling.

*By "ruining my day", I mean it makes me want to write passive-aggressive posts. This has been a passive-aggressive post. I would gladly show it to that person, if he/she showed any signs of wanting to talk about the issue at all. I don't like starting arguments, because then you're the one who's obligated to continue the line of reasoning, when you're not even the one with the issue.

*i was going to post this as a comment reply, but it became too long

*if you're looking for those Amanda Todd nudes, go to tumblr. There are a lot of them. Amanda was no angel. Amanda brought it upon herself. Amanda is whiny. (Was whiny??)

This is a comment reply to the comment left by an anon on my post about Amanda Todd.


Dear anon,

*you're

That aside, I fail to see how I have been narrow-minded. I fail to see where I have created scenarios and then presented them as facts.

I feel the need to explain my words, which you seem not to understand.

Viewing this incident from another point of view does not mean that I am narrow-minded. The possibilities that I have examined are mere possibilities, and nowhere is my post do I say that that is exactly what has happened.

"Clear signs of complete lack of understanding to the mentally unstable". Sir, in what way is it "clear" that I have a "complete lack of understanding" of the mentally unstable? Are you qualified to identify and categorize who understands the mentally unstable, and who does not? Sir, please read the following sentence slowly: no one is able to understand those who are mentally ill.

I severely doubt that you yourself understand what the mentality of Amanda Todd was, so please restrain yourself.

I question the authenticity of the story because Amanda Todd herself presented it. As the "victim", she is definitely biased towards her own viewpoint. The video was made for sympathy; it was calculated for maximum emotional impact. Although I question her story by using words like "apparently", I do not say that it is false.

Also, anon, "apparently" is a perfectly acceptable word when one is unable to ascertain the facts.

Suicide is not wrong, in my opinion, but it is extremely selfish. Selfishness is a human instinct. We tend to put ourselves first. There is no need for you to say that you "know" that it is "wrong".

Let me now address your point about the two options that we are left with. We can either "mourn her death and try and use it to eradicate bullying or we can not mourn it and bitch about how selfish she was for killing herself". I must say that those two options are narrow-minded.

Mourning her death has a certain limit. It is tasteless for people who have never known Amanda and will never know Amanda to make posts about what a "wonderful girl" she was. They know nothing about her personality, just as I know nothing about her personality. I merely object to people who pour out useless sympathy to dead people.

All we know are her actions, and her actions don't seem to be very positive. The media glosses over her drug and alcohol abuse, and chooses to capitalize on the tragedy of her young age, and how she was bullied.

This is, anon, is most certainly not using her death to eradicate bullying. I see nothing on twitter about "Amanda Todd RIP. Today I will stop bullying kids and be nice to outcasts", and nothing on facebook about "Amanda Todd's death serves as a chilling warning to us about the effects of bullying. Pledge to stop bullying today! Like this page 'Against Bullying'!".

Instead, social media is flooding with posts about how she was pretty, how she didn't deserve to die, how her bullies should rot in hell (and creating a whole new vicious cycle of verbal abuse).

You are mistaken about this.

We could also "not mourn it and bitch about how selfish she was for killing herself". I have done nothing of the sort. I did not "bitch" about her death, mainly because there was nothing for me to bitch about. Anon, my post was about how I found this incident to be overblown and thoroughly irritating. She's dead, and your sympathy is useless.

I did not say that she was selfish for killing herself. What I emphasized, several times, was the fact that she made very stupid decisions. Her selfish actions have no direct impact on me, hence I mentioned it sparingly. However, I did state in the beginning that this post was a result of the flood of sympathy on social platforms. That affected me, and that is what I was "bitching" about.

I understand how you might be mistaken about the point of my post. The section about Amanda Todd's video is a whole lot longer than the section about useless sympathy for a dead girl.

Dear anon, your inflammatory comment has no substance, and to be honest I am at a loss as to what you wished to convey. Your points were insufficiently explained, and even though I spent quite a few minutes puzzling over what exactly you wanted me to do, and what exactly were your feelings towards this post. I am equally confused about your "childish" comment, and your "that's just my two cents and your welcome to yours".

You're welcome to reply to this.

P.S. There is no need to say that I have touched on "good points" if you don't really think so. Which, as I assume from your first comment, you do not.