changing your beliefs? why are you doing that?

a lot of people change their beliefs because they "have" to. which i think is ridiculous and delusional.

it's a real thing that some parents suddenly become less homophobic when their kid turns out to be not straight, or dads becoming more feminist when they get a daughter. and the root of the whole issue is that they didn't understand the problem until someone they loved became the problem.

then they had to chose between putting the problem first, or their loved one first. and when they pick their loved one, it doesn't really mean they're less of a bigot. i mean, technically, yeah, your mom might stop using "gay"as a slur, but it's really out of necessity, if you really think about it.

these people didn't think about the issue, and realise that there's nothing inherently inferior or problematic about being not straight, or female. these people didn't think about it and realise, hey, i should try to be mindful about my stereotypes, and subconscious stereotypes. they didn't consciously choose to be nice people.

the presence of the non-straight loved one in their lives, for example, is like the only thing that made them think about it or try to change their ways. to put it another way, if the issue didn't concern their loved one, they'd probably be just as bigoted as ever, and all chill about it too.

i mean, yeah, good that people are becoming less of dicks, even if it's not entirely voluntary, or conscious, but i don't think it's anything worth celebrating on an individual level.

i mean, if you're going to tell me, "oh, i support the LGBTQ+ now! my nephew is gay" i'm just going to think you're intellectually weak. and pathetic. and without your own opinions.

really? it took your nephew being gay to make you realise supporting the lgbtq should be a given? or are you saying that you only care about them now that your nephew is one of "them"? because both options are pathetic. changing your mind like that is not something to brag about. it makes me think that you lack the intellectual rigour to examine things without your emotional bias. which doesn't bode well for you making any decisions, period. not just your lgbtq-related decisions.

in any case, whenever i come across one of these cases where e.g. a parent figure becomes less of a bigot when their child turns out to be part of the group that they discriminate against, i think, oh, that's great for the child. the parent? kind of pathetic of the parent. but it did turn out well for the child, and pretty okay overall. so i tend not to hang on to that too much.

but seriously. i think it's pathetic.

well, it's MORE pathetic to be a bigot, so i guess this is better in comparison. ya know, the lesser evil and everything.